Much has been written, by many experienced and intelligent people about achieving goals and not giving up, but many of these people don’t seem to mention much about how often, in the pursuit of a goal, you may feel exactly like giving up!
Throughout the course of my life, I think I’ve probably spent more time feeling like giving up than I have feeling confident that I’ll achieve my goals!
So how do you get past that point when it all seems useless, overwhelming and just too hard? How do you manage to keep going when your mind chatters on about how this probably isn’t what you want to do anyway and “these things” may work for other people (because they’re smarter, richer, more attractive etc etc than I am!) but not for me – I’m simply not good enough.
Ta da……..drum roll………
TAKE ACTION! Get out of the emotion and TAKE ACTION!
But, you say, my feelings are so strong, how do I stop them and take action? I’m so confused and don’t know what action to take.
Achieving anything in life is not about denying your feelings, it’s about recognising them, acknowledging them, and having a plan of action as to how you move on and not let your emotions cripple you into partial or complete paralysis.
You may need to feel your feelings for a time and then move into action. I’ve often done this when something has been weighing down on me and I felt like I couldn’t shake it. I just talk to myself, tell myself I’ve got the morning to feel whatever it is I’m feeling and then in the afternoon I’ll take appropriate action towards what it is I’m wanting to get done.
The “law of attraction” and self help type books will tell you to change your thinking. Yeah right! Your husband has left you and run off with someone else, your kids are sick, you have to move house and you have no idea how, when or where to and you have little money to achieve this with. Plus, your ex is being unreasonable and often downright nasty and uncooperative. Change your thinking? A tad hard to do at this point don’t you think?
But, if you take some specific, appropriate actions on a daily basis towards mastering your situation and overcoming obstacles, it will be much, much easier to change your thinking, focus on the positives in your life, make plans and set goals for your future – without the nasty husband! Attempting to change one’s thinking without taking action is like trying to row a boat without water. You’ll go through the motions, but get nowhere!
In business, it’s exactly the same. Rather than drive yourself crazy with fears, worries and frustrations at all you may have to learn and do in order to be successful, set yourself small daily tasks and DO THEM!
A note to remember – housework, chatting to friends for long periods of time, finding time to do for others what they can do for themselves or playing around on Facebook for hours on end isn’t considered appropriate action – unless of course, this is your goal.
So get moving – write that list of things you will do each day towards the achievement of your dreams and goals and remember to dream BIG!
With love,
Wendy xx
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